So how can one affair proof his or her marriage? We looked at the idea of entrusting God with our thoughts yesterday, today we will look at some practical "don't's" and tomorrow we will look at a few "do's"
1. Do not have separate bank accounts.
2. Do not hide passwords -- You should have access to one another's email, Facebook, Twitter, etc
3. Do not eat dinner with members of the opposite sex -- No lunch, brunch or coffee either!
4. Do not foster an emotional relationship with someone of the opposite sex -- No work spouse!
5. Do not go to bed angry -- Talk about problems before they fester
Affair proofing your marriage requires commitment, faith and a whole lot of work! If the two of you are willing to trust God and do the work you will eliminate MANY of the pitfalls which sink many a marriage!
James
It's a good list - but I disagree with the last one. Discussions need to take place with emotions subdued and logical thinking in charge.
ReplyDeleteSometimes things take TIME for the emotional feelings to subside. Letting things "cool off" for a bit is often a really, REALLY good idea. Trust me, talking to me when I'm in an emotional state is often "not a very good idea".
To clarify - I am NOT suggesting that waiting forever is good. Yes, you do need to talk about it. Only that "bed time" is a rather arbitrary time for emotions to subside.
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